The Path We Have Traveled


A work describing the Question of Whether
The Search for Spritual Truth Can Continue While in a Love Relationship.


Truth and Romance

I think about romantic Love and the sustainability of marriage. When a marriage or serious relationship ends and people ask “Why”. A widely accepted answer is “People Change”.
Of course people change I will always be changing, growing, learning and seeking. Does that suggest that it will be impossible for me to sustain a romantic relationship long term? Will I have to sacrifice my spiritual growth in order to “Not Change” if I want to remain in a relationship with one woman? Is that how other people make it work? Is that what they mean when they say “Marriage is Compromise”?
I do not think I will ever be willing to sacrifice my progress on my spiritual journey in order to stay in a spot where my degree of “Change” does not threaten my ability to hang onto a romantic relationship. Is that why a vow of celibacy (not an option for me) is suggested for those who wish to be leaders of faith? Even if I can find someone as dedicated to their Tao as I am to mine, they will follow their path and again “People Will Change”.
I have often wondered if it was possible to give a monogamous romantic relationship the energy it needs without taking it from my search for spiritual truth. For more than 25 years I have been compelled to search for Spiritual Truth. I have no reason to think this will change. I have no desire for it to change.
I also believe that a long term romantic relationship or Love has the potential to heal many wounds that could not be soothed any other way. I very much want to give and receive that healing.
Are these two possibilities at odds? Do I have to choose one? Maybe this is the definition of the term “Hopeless Romantic”. Is it a hopeless endeavor to expect to be able to know Spiritual Truth and romantic Love in the same life?

One More Time


The cause of all our personal problems and nearly all the problems of the world can be summed up in a single sentence:
Human life is very deep, and our modern dominant lifestyle is not.
--Bo Lozoff